Setting Relationship Boundaries

Article written by Rita Schoolcraft, THINK Educator

Fun suckers!! Ugh, that’s what boundaries are, right?  Aren’t they rules to keep teens from having any fun? Wrong.  Boundaries are meant to be a measure of freedom while also providing protection.  Nowhere else is this more important than within relationships.  The boundaries you set should support your goals/values and keep you from taking more risk than you are willing.  By setting boundaries, you begin to teach others how to treat you (respectfully). Boundaries are easy to set with a few guidelines:

• Communicate them clearly and concisely in the beginning of a relationship.

• Don’t apologize for YOUR choices.

• Communicate consequences for overstepping boundaries.

• Enforce the consequence.

For example:  You both agree how far you are willing to go physically in your relationship.  However, one day while you are alone for an extended period of time, the kissing leads to more than you or your partner are comfortable with.  Next, you take a step back, restate the boundaries and then agree to not be alone for long periods of time.  

Enjoy your teen years and the freedom that comes with it – however, be sure to protect your dreams!